Honest reflections. Tender truths. A safe place for same-sex parents and donor-conceived families.
I haven’t been great, if I’m honest. (And let’s face it — when have I ever sugar-coated things?) Right now, I’m deep in it. In the chrysalis. In the pause. In the uncomfortable, holy mess that comes just before something shifts. Brené Brown speaks about the courage it takes to enter the wilderness — that … Continue reading The Healing Journey: From Pain to Authenticity
Last weekend I had a rare treat – the chance to share two nights with just my eldest three kids. Before you jump on me, yes OF COURSE I missed my littlest two darlings. Absolutely, 100%, without a doubt – YES. But I also loved the chance to immerse myself in rare older child company … Continue reading Big Kid Time
Sixteen years ago, there were no Facebook groups or Fertility Clinics offering information sessions, so word of mouth was all that was available for prospective same sex parents. We became ‘those friends’ who had been through the process, and so would often be contacted by ‘friends of friends’ to field questions about all issues related … Continue reading Word of Mouth
The advent of DNA testing raises so many issues for families like mine. On the one hand, it provides opportunities for discovering biological origins and providing invaluable links that may otherwise never be known. On the other hand, it can uncover donors and connections that may or may not be welcome, and in some cases, … Continue reading DNA Testing: We Found Him
Miss L, our 21 month old, has taken on a new set of behaviours lately. It has become most obvious in terms of her new bedtime antics. For a week or two now, our darling (said through clenched teeth) has caused us no end of frustration in her reluctance to go to sleep. Initially we thought it was the … Continue reading Terrible Twos: A Sign Of What Lies Ahead?
I met Lisa when I was three months pregnant with Master C. He was to be my final child: the one I intended on raising completely on my own. Years of co-parenting my older three kids had worn me down emotionally, and I was determined not to have to share this little one with anyone. … Continue reading Why Single Motherhood Wasn’t For Me
How do you make sense of such a tragic, senseless event? How do you explain it to kids? How do you explain that it was an Australian, one of our own, responsible for killing so many innocent victims, in such a callous and heinous manner? The events in Christchurch in the wake of the terrorist … Continue reading Christchurch
I’ve had more time than I normally do with my Master C, who is four, over the past couple of Summer months. We have been to many playgrounds, movies and shopping centres, where he, being a very social creature, inevitably meets new ‘shriends’ (friends). What I have found incredibly interesting is observing the manner in … Continue reading Early Introductions
So this week is a bit of a big one for me. I’m turning 40 tomorrow. Whilst I haven’t yet fallen victim to the melancholy that a birthday of this magnitude can conjure, I am acutely aware that I’m about to take a flying leap into the ‘middle aged’ bracket. I remember as a teenager … Continue reading Middle Aged
I don’t remember a great deal about the actual birth of each of my children. It seems a common phenomenon that most of the pain and trauma of the child-birthing experience tends to fade from memory very quickly after meeting the new arrival. One shot of Cupid’s arrow and we succumb to the love bubble … Continue reading The Other Type of ‘Coming Out’
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